Sunday, May 5, 2019

Scarlett's Top 5 Tricks to Beat the Blues

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Depression sucks. Whether it’s chronic or situational, nobody likes that feeling of heaviness and lethargy that comes with being down in the dumps. And we’ve all felt it. Some people say that all you have to do is “think positive” and your life will change. Well, I am a big proponent of positive thinking, but when depression really hits hard, sometimes thinking positive just isn’t enough. When mine is really being stubborn, there are five things that I make myself do that help me shake it off, even if it’s only a momentary respite. So the next time you’re in a slump, here are my suggestions.

1) Play Dress Up. One of the hardest things to do when you’re really blue is just getting out of bed and getting dressed, but if you can convince yourself to take five or ten minutes to soak in a nice, hot bath (preferably with nice-smelling bubbles or a bath bomb), you have a very good chance of bringing your mood up a notch. Then, after the relaxing soak, pick one of your favorite outfits (and make-up, jewelry, and nail-polish if you prefer) and dress yourself up even if you have nowhere to go. There’s something inspiring about feeling clean and wearing an attractive outfit that can and does lift a person’s spirits.

2) Stay Away from Depressing Entertainment! Sometimes when I find myself in a state of depression, I take a look at the movies and shows I’ve been watching and the books I’ve been reading only to realize that I’ve been feeding into my despair by filling my mind with dark, depressing, violent entertainment. It’s so easy to do because bleak stories are everywhere; just turn on the news for a couple of minutes, and you’ll see what I mean! If you catch yourself in a pattern of consuming sad, scary, or troubling media, switch it up! Watch uplifting shows like comedies or travel shows instead.

3) Read Romance! This goes along with number 2, but one reason why I love reading and writing romance is that you know that no matter what troubles the main characters go through, they will end up together. Romance novels have a happy ending. Sometimes life provides nothing but sad endings, but when you can escape into a good romance novel, you can take a break from life’s rotten luck and vicariously fall in love and live happily ever after.

4) Call or Write a Friend or Family Member. We all have those friends and family members that we know we should keep in touch with more often. Sometimes we get busy and lose track of time and don’t realize that we’ve totally lost touch with someone we love. Reaching out to someone you care about who you haven’t talked to in a while is a great way to get your mind off of your own troubles and re-focus on someone else. Chances are, that person would love to hear from you, so you’ve got a win-win situation, making yourself happy and making the other person happy in the process.

5) Unplug! I absolutely love the Internet. I love social media. But studies have shown that too much of it can actually worsen people’s depression. As the saying goes, “Everything in moderation.” If you’re feeling depressed or anxious, and you notice that you’re spending a whole lot of time online, you might want to take a day and totally unplug. Trust me: it won’t disappear while you’re gone! It’ll be right there waiting for you when you get back. Instead of checking social media first thing in the morning, try out a new recipe for breakfast, or go for a walk. Getting out in nature is an especially great way to unplug. Listen to your favorite music, or read a book. Instead of mindlessly scrolling through feeds throughout the day when you’re bored, treat yourself to a new restaurant or take yourself to the movies—anything that takes you away from the screen. Even something as simple as cleaning the house or doing yoga, something that gets you moving and doing something productive, can be a nice balance to spending more time than is healthy online.


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I hope my tips help you out! If you decide to try one of them and they work, let me know! And thanks very much for reading.


-SK


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Monday, March 25, 2019

CITY SPIRIT, COUNTRY HEART Reviewed at The Lesbian Review

This week I'm honored to be reviewed at The Lesbian Review! See what they have to say about CITY SPIRIT, COUNTRY HEART! Click below:







XoXo,

SK


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Monday, March 18, 2019

Spring Upon Us: New Growth, New Stories!

Hi, Gang! This week we are approaching the Vernal Equinox.


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If you're in the U.S., you've suffered through the dreaded "Spring Forward" daylight savings time where we all had to set out clocks one hour ahead. Hopefully you've adjusted to your mornings being darker and your evenings being lighter, and if you're in another part of the world and didn't have to make the change, LUCKY YOU!!

I wanted to write a quick blog post to let you know that although I have been somewhat quiet on the blog-writing front, I have been tirelessly working away at starting a new F/F series for you! I'm putting the finishing touches on Book 1 this spring in order to get it ready to send in to my publisher by summer. Without giving too much away, here's an image that relates to the new WIP:



(Model Ashlee Arson, photographer unknown)


Other than that, 2019 has been going well. For many of us, our New Year's Resolutions have long since been forgotten by now, but I'm hanging on to the strands of a couple of them and modifying them to be realistic enough yet to also meet my needs for growth. I feel that we can start over with our goals at any point in the year. The beginning of Spring seems an especially appropriate new starting place if you want to begin anew.

For me, I'm trying to apply this motto: "If you want different results, you must do things differently."

So whenever I find myself in a funk, not making much progress towards my goals, running around in the same old hamster wheel, I take a careful look at myself and what I'm doing to see if I'm repeating the same old failed things I've done in years past, or if I'm actually trying out new ways to get new results.

Anyway, that's all the news for now, friends! I'll keep you posted on the new WIP! Have a great week, and Happy Spring!



XoXo

Scarlett


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Thursday, February 14, 2019

Special Guest: Sarah Lynn DeCuir!

I am so happy today to have guest author Sarah Lynn DeCuir on my blog!




I met Sarah a few years ago in an online erotica writers group, and since then, I've grown to greatly admire her talent for writing and her dedication to her craft. Aside from her writing, she's an all-around wonderful person and friend, and I'm excited for you to meet her! She's got a new release out, just in time for this year's Valentine's Day: the third book in her scorching hot bisexual erotica trilogy. Check out my interview with her below!


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Welcome, Sarah! I'm thrilled to have you on the blog today. For those readers out there who are new to you, tell us a little bit about yourself.

I was born and raised in Fresno, California until I was sixteen when my family moved to a small town just outside of Portland, Oregon. As someone who’s always loved the outdoors, Oregon was a great place to live, but I felt drawn back to Fresno for some reason. Going with my gut, I moved back to the Central Valley when I was nineteen and was on my own for the first time. It wasn’t long until I began dating the love of my life. We were married a year later, so I guess fate had a plan for me in that regard lol! 

That does sound like fate! Funny how things work out that way. Now, about your writing, when did you first start writing erotica? And why erotica?

I’ve always enjoyed reading erotica, but never really thought about writing it until I purchased my first erotic book from Apple iBooks (now it’s just called “Apple Books” but back then it was iBooks). I had a huge crush on Xena back in the day, and was looking for some Xena-like erotica when I stumbled across Leandra J. Piper’s “The Shaming of the Warrior Princess.” It’s one of those, the gorgeous guy is forcing me but I love it, stories.  And it absolutely left me panting! A few things surprised me when I read it though. First was that I found a typo and I thought, how can a professionally published book have a typo in it? Then it dawned on me that it was an indie book. The second thing that surprised me was how short the story was at only four thousand words. I remember feeling a bit cheated by this at first, but then laughed as I realized the book had given me more than my money’s worth lol! But by far my biggest takeaway was the thought that I can do this too! And a few months later I published “The Office Affair.”

That's awesome! And speaking of "The Office Affair," what inspired it?

I’ve worked in a few offices and gotten the once over from the boss a time or two, but for the most part they’ve always been more or less professional environments, if not a little boring lol! I thought it would be fun to write a story with characters that didn’t have to worry about the real life complications of having an affair at work. Ones that could just have fun with it and indulge in the experience.

Well, I've read all three books, and I can tell you from experience, these books are pure naughty fun! Now that you're done writing the trilogy, are there any future projects in the works?

Oh my God yes, many! The first of which is a feature length screenplay. It’s an action thriller about a beautiful former CIA agent turned freelance operator who falls in love on a job, and has to decide between the guy she’s fallen for or the money. There’s lots of action, awesome locations, and a fair bit of romance as well. The script will be my main focus for the next few months, but there’ll be lots of hot erotica coming in the near future.

That screenplay sounds totally bad-ass! Wishing you the best of luck with it! So, just wrapping up the interview, I'll ask one more question: what, more than anything, do you want your readers to know about your work? 

That it’s written with passion and that I put my heart and soul into it! And if it’s turning you on, know that it’s doing the same thing for me. I don’t write what I think people will get excited about. I write the stories that I’m excited and passionate to tell and hope that people will connect with them. So if you enjoy my work, we’re kindred spirits.💖


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If you want to check out Sarah's steamy series and learn more about the author, click the below links! And big thanks to Sarah for stopping by today!


BOOKS!

"The Office Affair" (Book 1)

"The Vegas Affair" (Book 2)

"The New Boss" (Book 3)


SOCIAL MEDIA!

Sarah's Twitter

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Tuesday, February 5, 2019

Writers: Teammates or Competition?

The writing and publishing world can be so much fun! I've met some amazing friends through writing, networking, and publishing. So it always amazes me when I see writers faction themselves off into cliques and start acting as if other writers are nothing but competition...

My question is: why would you compete against your own tribe?




We writers, no matter what genre we write, are all so similar at the core. We are storytellers. We love the written word. Most of us love to read books as much as we love to write them. We greatly hope readers will love our stories, and we try so hard to write the best damn book we can with each manuscript we crank out.

I've always been incredibly supportive of other writers. I love seeing other writers succeed, not only through personal fulfillment of completing a book, but in marketing, in reviews, in sales, etc. When I see other writers doing well, or better than I'm currently doing, I don't get angry. I'm happy for them! I do what I can to help them succeed even more! And I'm wondering why we can't all be like that.

Writing isn't a competition. Just because people read one author's book doesn't mean they will ONLY read that author's books! That's just silly! Just imagine all of the different authors you read and love for different reasons. Chances are, you don't only read one. And every new one you discover and you love, the more fun you have exploring our world of books--am I right?

So to my fellow authors out there splitting off into factions of US vs THEM, I urge you to take a step back and remember that this isn't a sport. We're not out to beat each other like in a football game. My wish is that we could all realize we're in this together and to remember we're all part of the same storytelling tribe. And the next time someone sells more books than you or gets more followers on social media than you, instead of defaulting to feelings of jealousy, try out being happy for them for a change. You might find that it feels pretty good!


XoXo

Scarlett

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Thursday, January 17, 2019

Jan. 17 D-Day for Goals?




This morning I was watching the news, and they were talking about how today (January 17th) is considered "D-Day" for your New Year's Resolutions. In other word, today is the day that most people jump ship on their new goals and settle back into their old behavior.

The news anchors went on to talk about some things that can be done to stop this from happening, for instance, telling friends and family about your goals, having a clear plan, making your goals be realistic, and being easy on yourself when you slip. I agree that all those things can help, but one thing that I didn't hear them talk about is something that actually helps me stick with my goals.

I love starting a new year and making resolutions because I am a very goal oriented person in general, but that doesn't mean I only set goals on Jan. 1. I've figured out how to stick with the goals I set, no matter when I set them, and one of the biggest things I do to succeed is remember the WHY.

Here's an example of what I mean: when you're wanting to lose weight, and you're sick of dieting or going to the gym, ask yourself why you're eating less and why you're killing yourself on the treadmill. Ask, "Why do I want to lose weight?" Then list all the reasons why you created the resolution in the first place. For me, seeing the reasons on paper helps trigger the original motivation in my brain, and it helps me to keep going.

This year, I'm asking myself:

- Why do I want to write every day?

- Why do I want to improve my physical health?

- Why do I want to make time to read every day?

- Why do I want to start telling people "no" more often?


Sometimes we get stuck in a rut just going through the motions of our goals, and when we focus on the actions we are taking and forget the big WHY, it's easy to just dump the whole thing and give up.  Remembering why always helps keep me on track.


Do you have any goals for the new year? If so, why are they your goals?


XoXo

Scarlett


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